Susan O’Malley

Designing Your Reset

Our life is a series of resets. Big and small, these resets define who we are.

A reset is an action, a process, a mindset to do something differently. A reset occurs sometimes by circumstance, sometimes by choice. But how we choose to accept, manage and design our reset is entirely up to us.

Resetting is about embracing a positive attitude towards change and finding opportunities for personal growth even in the hardest of times. It isn’t always an easy thing to do.

Martha Stewart, an ultimate resetter said, “Getting over those unexpected hurdles may not be exactly enjoyable, but ultimately I believe that such challenges and the solutions we find give us more confidence. They teach us with common sense and determination we can turn what looks like a disaster into a triumph.”

When I suddenly left my old company under less than pleasant circumstances, I was overwhelmed with anger, fear and loss. When the extreme shock of it all began to subside, I had only two choices – flounder in the abyss or get on with it and chart a new course.

I decided to reset. After so many years, my business had defined me and I felt lost without my routines, my staff and my old way of life. Creating a new path forward would take more than changing career lanes – it would take a full overhaul.

Over the course of the last year, I found my way. It wasn’t simple and it wasn’t pretty. But through this winding journey, I rebuilt myself.

If you’re in need of a reset and want to know where to begin, here are four questions to ask yourself:

  1. Why do you want to make the change?
  2. What is the change you want to make?
  3. What is stopping you from making the change?
  4. How are you going to make the change?

I can tell you that the hardest part of any reset is beginning. It feels like a giant doorway without an opening but there is an entrance and you hold the key. Don’t let the fear of not knowing what’s on the other side keep you from entering. A reset begins with believing in yourself – and a reset pays off with finding yourself – again.