Remember the first female friend you made? Maybe it was in school, or the kid of a friend of your parents? Whoever she was, there was something about her that bonded you together.

Flash forward to your adult years and you realize that the female friendships you have cultivated are so important, but can become so hard to maintain.

When you are young and single, your girlfriends are your world. Then why does it sometimes shift so drastically when you get in a relationship or start a family? Sure, my husband is my best friend, but I don’t know what I would do without my girlfriends.

I feel so lucky that I get to have these women in my life, but I would be lying if I didn’t say that it takes time and energy to nurture.

I have heard stories of friendships that have come and gone, which was always perplexing to me. Unless if the friendship was toxic, there should always be time for your friends. In today’s modern technological world, it is so easy to call or text someone.

So how do you maintain these relationships, while taking care of everything else? Ask yourself one simple question- are you fulfilled without these friendships? If you answer yes, then this article isn’t for you, but if it was no, here are a few quick tips to fix that.

  1. Talk If your friends live in another state, or even another city within the same state, pencil in a phone date once a week to catch up. It is the easiest way to be involved in each other’s lives and stay connected.
  2. Travel Plan a trip once a year for you and your friends. I know it can be very hard to do. Maybe it doesn’t happen every year, cause of work, little ones, etc., but the benefits from a weekend away are life changing. My three best friends don’t live in the same state and we do this every year, it’s the best way for us all to re-connect.
  3. Break Bread Lastly, if you are one of the lucky ones and your friends all live nearby, plan a girls dinner once a week, if that’s too much once a month. Whenever you can plan it.

I know these seem like no-brainer tips, but life gets hectic and we all can forget what’s important. Every female friendship I have is important. We all need to support and be there for each other. Female empowerment is so crucial and necessary. We nourish each other by building relationships out of love and respect.

As Beyoncé said, “Who runs the world? Girls!”

Skye Dyer is a singer/songwriter and a work-in-progress. You can follow along on