What does being mindful look like to you? Do you picture someone wearing yoga clothes, meditating on a beach? Or do you picture someone just getting through their day without falling apart?

I could ask 100 people and all of their answers would be different but all correct. The definition of mindful is being conscious or aware of something. In my opinion, being mindful is a way of life.

Before I dive in, let me divulge that my father was a self-help author [the late Wayne Dyer], so being mindful is in my blood. My parents meditated everyday, and I was taught transcendental meditation at the age of eight. Even with all their guidance and knowledge, I didn’t apply it to my own life until about 10 years ago. I’m 35, you do the math.

How does it feel to sit in silence, or think about something you are grateful for? It feels pretty damn good, right? How do we find the time to do so many menial tasks but we can’t find the time to create a better quality of life, we make excuses over and over again that we don’t have the time.

One of the biggest ways to become more mindful is to change your thoughts. It takes practice. Every time a negative thought pops up, try to be conscious of it and attempt to see the positive. I know you are thinking it’s easier said than done. I promise you, anyone can do it, and eventually it becomes second nature. Habits happen because we do them every day. What if you took 10 minutes to meditate or think about one thing you are grateful for? Make time to meditate, volunteer, take a workout class. Do anything that makes you happy and present. Once you start doing this everyday or even a couple times a week, you will begin to see a difference. My tips on beginning:

  1. Start your mornings by recognizing at least one thing you are grateful for.
  2. Add in 15 minutes of meditation. Yes, just you and your positive thoughts.
  3. Now start doing those both every day. Make a habit out of being mindful.

Life change doesn’t happen overnight, but I can honestly say that it has changed my life for the better. I feel that I can handle anything thrown my way. I know you can too.

Skye Dyer is a singer/songwriter and a work-in-progress. You can follow along on SkyeDyer.com.